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As I watched from my seat in a crowded community center, five
men and women, one after another, were learning freedom through
the very thoughts that had caused their suffering, thoughts
such as My husband betrayed me" or My mother doesn't love
me enough. Simply by asking four questions and listening
to the answers they found inside themselves, these people
were opening their minds to profound, spacious, and life-transforming
insights. I saw a man who had been suffering for decades from
anger and resentment toward his alcoholic father light up
before my eyes within forty-five minutes. I saw a woman who
had been almost too frightened to speak, because she had just
found out that her cancer was spreading, end the session in
a glow of understanding and acceptance. Three out of the five
people had never done The Work before, yet the process didn't
seem to be more difficult for them than it was for the other
two, nor were their realizations any less profound. They all
began by realizing a truth so basic that it is usually invisible:
the fact that (in the words of the Greek philosopher Epictetus)
we are disturbed not by what happens to us, but by our thoughts
about what happens. As soon as they grasped that truth, their
whole understanding changed.
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